Poor girl. Her life is so hard lately. I don't know why she struggles so much, she cant just do what is asked of her, it is simple really. Do what your told, don't do things you know your not suppose to. Why does it need to be a fight every single day. I remember Kase going through a stage like this but this has been her for years. Stubborn. Trouble. Defiant. Unfortunately these are traits that both Justin and I carry. I don't know if this fight will go on with her forever. We spent the morning screaming, and I sent her to school with red puffy eyes. I really don't like to be the yelling , screaming parent but lets face it...it gets the job done a whole hell of a lot quicker when I do. This time she took all of her clean clothes and hid them in her dirty clothes...strike 15. She keeps doing it, and it got to the point that when confronted she would lie through her teeth and tell me the made up day she wore these clean clothes that I just wash and folded. All summer shes been on Landry duty, washing folding and putting away all of our clothes, yet that doesn't seem to matter. SHE STILL IS DOING IT! I have been patient, laught about it, yelled about, punished you name it, and she doesn't care!! So this morning after laying all of her clean clothes out, she was asked to put them all away. 45 mins and a few little power struggles later she is screaming in her head of in her room saying "I am so stupid! Why did I do that...nononononono." It breaks my heart. She is the hardest child, we clash all the time and honestly there are days when I think I really hate her. I don't know how to raise her, how to strear her in a good productive direction. I am just crossing my fingers and hoping she doesn't get knock up in high school and somehow we figure out how her brain works.
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have patience, it all goes and she will find the right path and become a great and educated girl.
Its so hard to be a mom. I always pray Im doing and saying the right thing. You are a great mom, we tend to be too hard on ourselves. When Karlee is having a rough time I have found that if I give her extra love and attention it really helps. Sometimes just her and I go for a drive and we have girl talk :) She is probably still adjusting to 2 new babies thats a big change for kids.
Oh also with the clothes thing I love that you made her do the laundry if that doesnt work I say only give her 7 outfits for the week and tell her she has to earn the others back by showing she can take care of her clothes better, just a thought :) Good luck!
Hey there, just strolled through some blogs and I got dropped off at yours. I know what's going on, my mother was, and slightly still is, much like you. My sister is a lot like your daughter. All I can say to help, is just check her friends every so often. Often we connect with the wrong people. If she gets defensive, then you found one cause. Other than that, the rest will come in time. Being a parent is never easy, I know that now.
Nice Photo's :)
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